Give others freedom to be themselves

Hi all,

“Give others freedom to be themselves. Appreciate the differences between their ways and yours.”

This is a SMS message that I got today as an early morning greeting. Yes, every individual needs freedom. Each of us behave in a different way and the difference only makes us to be individualistic from each other.

For those who look up for affection,it is not wrong,but don’t force others to behave in the way u want. We don’t have rights to march into personal space of others .Each of us is different. Value, welcome, realize and appreciate those differences. If u really care, understand them; let them to enjoy freedom, give them space. Relationships grow older and bond best with those who don’t invade that space.

Time is one of the big constraints in this fast moving world, we barely know neighbor’s face in big apartments. Unloading heart doesn’t happen easily. The pressures of being individualistic also bring with it the baggage that we rarely unpack and share. When you are so busy you need to look more into yourselves, and that’s the fact too.

“But when a person whom you love very much, trust a lot, hurts you, ignores you, No one can heal the wound left, no one can imagine the pain caused, even the same person cannot.”

If you’re trusted and people will allow you to share their inner gardens...what better gift?

Am i making any sense???!!! :)

Will try to meet u all soon.

break

hi all,

This post is not regarding "lunch time break" stories of my college life if i post that,that would refresh all my good memories ,but right now not able to do it. I am going to take a break from SMS,Orkut,Mails and all "texting" form of communication.feel i need a break.That is all about my break.

will try to meet u all soon.

Navarathiri

Hi all,

Navarathiri-one of my favorite festivals. It stands for nine nights which are dedicated to three Goddess’: Durga (Goddess of bravery), Lakshmi (Goddess of wealth), and Saraswathi (Goddess of knowledge) each for three days respectively.
Golu (rows of Clay dolls of god are arranged in steps) is the most important thing for Navarathiri in Tamilnadu.
This year, there is a new arrival at my home. My cousin 2 years old is adding fun to the celebration. I and my sister are at holidays. My father is busy at setting up of fancy lights,
We used to do some poojas during morning. I am trying out some new cuisines too. My mother prepares her as usual ‘sundal’.
Children wear fancy dresses and invite everyone for golu at their homes. People who come to golu sing devotional songs and are given thaamboolam. One good thing I noticed is people switched off their TV serials and exchanged greetings among each other. There are some Telugu and Gujarathi families nearby each celebrating this festival in their own way.
In this fast moving world, when people have no time to stand and stare, this type of festivals creates real fun, we meet old friends, relatives, also add new friends, all along with the blessings of the deity. This brings joy and peace. :)

Will meet u all soon :)

World Heart Day

Hi all,

For the past two days, when I switch on the television or go through the newspaper, I see there is more news about the heart diseases. Nowadays the risk of heart disease is being increased compared to the olden days.
Cardiologists say, these are mainly due to the increased stress, unhealthy food habits, lack of exercise, high blood pressure, smoking etc. Even people between 20-30 years of age face this risk.
This risk factor also depends on the lifestyle and personality of an individual. People should practice to accept failures or disappointments and learn from them, which is more important than the so called success.
We should accept things as they are (although sometimes we can seek help) and develop a positive attitude, which will certainly reduce the risk of getting heart diseases.

Will meet u soon. :)

Remembered this....

hi all,

Great me, O Master ,By the Grace
To follow all the good and pure
To be content with simple things:
To use my fellows not as means but ends
To serve them stalwartly,in thought,word,deed;
Never to utter word of hatred or of shame;
To cast away all selfishness and pride;
To speak no ill of others;
To have a mind at peace;
Set free from care,and led astray from thee
Neither by happiness or woe;
Set thou my feet upon this path,
And keep me steadfast in it.
Thus only shall I please thee,serve thee right.

This is from Gandhiji's "songs from prison".
I read this poem today morning,just thought of sharing this.

meet u all soon.

WhatToNameIt

Hi all,

Don’t know what to post right now. I am feeling moody. I created this blogger account with great interest. Nowadays I am not able to post, I am not bored, but I am feeling moody for the past few months.... This blog helps me in many ways... I can comment on it. I get most valuable information. I have got new friends too. I am happy about it. :)

Most of my friends are in other state and some so busy at work and some are doing their Post graduation. Anyway we are in touch thro mails and phone calls, sharing all the happenings much deeper than before (zero balance… jus kidding :) ).My dear friend is going to get married by the end of this year. My best wishes to her. (Don’t know whether she is reading this post) The thing is everybody is moving away to greater distances, but our relationships are getting closer and closer by heart. Hoping to be in touch always. Huh became sentimental.

Right now reading “Bharathiyar Kavithaigal”.

ENNiya mudidhal veNdum,
Nallave eNNal veNdum,
ThiNNiya nenjam veNdum,
Thelindha naLLarivu veNdum…

Will meet u soon. :)
( moving to finish my sister’s kutti project.:) )

Life Boat.:)

Hi everybody,

The birth of a person sails towards death. Is the life journey an easy one?
Lot of problems and difficulties we face. The person who sails in the boat of confidence
with an oar of perseverance in a sea called Life only could reach his destination.
Only then his journey could be successful.
This world is not ours. We don’t belong to this world.
It was present before our entrance and it shall be even after our end .
We are the visitors and we would go away soon we complete our earthly work and
we should welcome both good and bad in the same way,
at least we can try.
Don’t compare yourself with others, each one of us was created for different reasons;
try to bring out your identity ,
which is present inside u.
Don’t take success or failures in material wealth.
But by how u feel.
Our feelings determine the richness of our lives.
There are lots of experiences we gain.
Waiting is a lovely experience,
When u wait for a person u love.
Pain is a lovely experience,
When you deliver a child.
Anger is a lovely experience,
When you oppose illegal things.
Departure is a lovely experience,
When your daughter gets married.
Crying is a lovely experience,
When u feel happy.
Death is a lovely experience ,
Only when u live life to the fullest.

I feel that living life to the fullest is to have hope.
Sometimes we may feel that everything is lost and some void space fills our heat.
I too had such experience.
I had a friend in my neighborhood
I started liking her because of her attitude and also bcoz she possessed my best friend’s name.
Don’t know till that moment,
That she had a brain tumor,
When the doctor’s could not help,
She reached the feet of god, left me and created a void space.
And this happened two days before my final semester exams.

I closed my books, could not even cry, I was unable to accept the truth that she was no more.
I did not talk anything, came back home and cried to the core. What else I can do?
The past full of memories rolled down my head,
my mind and soul could not hold the pain inside, her memories went like a slide show throughout.
I thought of calling prathiba, coz she possess the ability to turn dull moments bright and
she knows when to offer advice or when to sit silent in quiet comfort.But I was unable to.
I felt like something, I could not explain those.

Two days passed, the day for my exam. Some how managed to get ready for the college.
I did not let go hope, because hope gave me the strength to keep going, when I felt like giving up.
I have written my exams to my level best.

The lessons I have learnt,

1. Dont let bad moments overcome you,
Be patient, it will pass.

2. Don’t feel like u have lost,
When your dreams fall short of your hopes.
Anytime u learn something new,
About urself or about life,
U have progressed.

3. Don’t ever guilt believing your self.
As long as u believe u can,
U will have a reason for trying.

I remember the words of Mahatma Gandhiji,

“Man often become what believe himself to be. If I believe I cannot do some thing,
it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it ,
even if I did not have it in the beginning”.

And thank u all for reading my post very patiently.

Live your life to the fullest.

C u all in my next post. :)




I

Love

hi,

Love…love…….

This is the buzz word found everywhere…

It makes the life sweet
It helps to get away from problems
It improves our routine life
It is the easiest way to reach god
And it makes life beautiful……….

It flows from heaven
And is absent at hell
That’s why we say “anbe kadavul”(Love is god)

Love others in the same way u love urself,says Bible.
Yes, u should love urself first..
Only then u can share it with others.

Only when u have the light to burn,
U can lit the candle of others
And make their place bright.

When u find love within u
U can feel the peace of mind.
When a person did not learn to live in harmony with his own self,
He would not be able to live in harmony with others too.

When u have love
Your thinking is ordered,
U will find good thoughts,
Coz thought is the propelling force in us,
Fill the mind with highest thoughts,
Coz your life will become the same way as your thoughts.

Life is to show love …(towards your family, friends,and of course everyone around u)
U should love urself to live
And to make your life complete, love everyone.

c u soon in my next post...

Beauty

Hi everybody,

Long time since me blogged just thought of it when my friend reminded me to

update it.

Coming to the topic, BEAUTY, don’t understand what made me to blog

about this particular topic...

Is that bcoz of the person of my admiration?

Her beautiful wavering hair,

Or her eyes which speaks,

Or is that bcoz of miss universe, who gained a recognition and appreciation

coz of her Good looks,

Or coz of the handsome guy whom I met last week

"NO" answered my sixth sense.

Then what???

It was the time when I wholly lost hope

It was bcoz of my friend, who is being a support during my toughest times,

She gives me hopes;

Stays with me when my times turn blue,

I found an extreme loveliness in her, the beauty in her.

We (my school friends) used to go for Sevalaya (A charity) just for participating in

some of the competitions,

We did not have that much of maturity to understand what the people at sevalaya does.

But now I can understand the service which they offer to the needy.

That inspired me a lot. I cannot offer money to them but when I go there,

Those kids feel happy; they expect tenderness and affection,

not anything more from me.

I found the beauty in those who are offering help for the upliftment

of the orphans there.

What would u do, when a person u love refuses u because u are not good looking.

Does beauty lies in physical appearance??

I believe that beauty is something from inside.

The affection which your mother shows towards u,

That lies in care u show towards your pets,

That lies in affection u show towards your family and friends

That lies when you help out the needy unconditionally,

When u are the reason for others to smile,

When u manage to smile when u r about to sob,

When your heartening words assists somebody’s troubles,

It is present in love, affection, care, warmth, sacrifice, prayer, kindness,

Service and HUMANITY.

I believe the beauty in heart,

Which I found in my mother’s warmth,

In my friends’ love,

When an unknown person took effort to search for my mobile when I lost it,

In an old lady who gave me a seat in a crowded bus understanding my illness,

In the care of my teacher who motivated me to score high….

This inner beauty is eternal and would not be washed out by time.

I feel that, a lot of problems in relationships will be solved

if people realize this.

I think I should stop here before u browse for other blogs,

C u all beauties in next post.:)

my first blog

hi all,

This is my first blog in this site. this is absolutely dedicated to my dear friend.

she is very nice and beautiful,

very very sweet,

she cares for both elders and the youngers ,

she never shows an indifferent face,

she always gives hopes,

very very talented,a humble person,

and a blogger here,

she have lots of friends of different characters and yet she manages everyone,

she can understand me even before i utter a word,

without her my life will turn blue,

she is my mother,for her warmth and affection

she is my father for her constant support

she is my sister for her understanding

she is my goddess for saving me from evils,

i feel very lucky to be her friend,

time after time i realise how fortunate iam tat my life includes her,

i have hurt her many times,

but she never misunderstood me,

if i lose her my life will become so incomplete without any meaning.

she is the most wonderful person i have ever met.

AND she is PRATHIBA for me , i love her more than i love myself.